or why you need to be honest with yourself.

or why you have to start listening to your strange, nerdy heart.

or why your jealousy is strangling your growth.

or why our level of skill does not match the skill we admire.

Or why it’s taken me nearly a year to jump back into this.

Or why you can’t judge all Black people by all Black standards

Or why Black girls get the short end of the stick in romance movies and books.

Or why Soft Black Girl is a battle cry.

Or what influenced me to become a writer and pursue the Soft Life.